Depression in Young Adults
When Dr. Ross Campbell and I wrote our book: Parenting Your Adult Child, we discovered that depression is the most common hurdle faced by young adults. Symptoms include feelings of helplessness,...
View ArticleDo’s and Don’ts of Depression
If you know someone who is depressed, let me give you some Do’s and Don’ts. First the Do’s: encourage them to go for counseling. Let them know that if they want to talk, you want to listen. Look for...
View ArticleInternalized Anger in Young Adults
One of the most common problems for adolescents and young adults is passive- aggressive anger. This person has a subconscious motivation to do exactly the opposite of what one is supposed to do....
View ArticleQ&A: Dealing with Depression
Q: Depression has been an issue in our marriage for a long time. What can we do? Gary: Depression that extends over a period of time can be difficult to deal with for both of you. However, there is...
View ArticleQ&A: Staying Positive after a Job Loss
Q: My husband recently lost his job, how can I help him to stay positive? Gary: Here are three things I suggest: (1) Speak your husband’s love language. The deepest emotional need we have is the need...
View ArticleEaten up with Anger
One of the common problems I encounter in the counseling office is people who are eaten up with anger. They have been deeply hurt by others. In an effort to be good Christians, they have held their...
View ArticleQ&A: A wife struggling to recover from her husband’s emotional affair
Q: Gary, I discovered emails between my husband and someone from his past. They have been in touch throughout our marriage. He met her for dinner on a business trip out of town 5 years ago. He ended...
View ArticleQ&A: A husband trying to come together with his wife on choosing a church.
Q: Gary, my wife and I attend separate churches because of our differing opinions of what a “good” church is. It feels awkward sometime, but I just don’t know how to come together on this. Gary: I have...
View ArticleHope for Your Marriage
Bob and Janice have been separated for three months. The only contact they have had is when they met briefly with a lawyer to discuss the terms of legal separation. Is there hope for their marriage?...
View Article7 Steps to Get the Most Out of Anger
I grew up in a family that understood anger as a threat to relationship. As such, raised voices or certain vocal tones got us a ticket to our bedrooms where we were supposed to magically get over it....
View ArticleThe Art of Apologizing
Though the word apology, as we know it, does not exist in the New Testament, an absence of the specific word does not indicate an absence of the concept. Scripture provides lessons for how to do this...
View ArticleFall Reflection
This is the time for Fall reflection. Are you pleased with the way you invested your time and energies so far this year? Are there changes you need to make in your lifestyle as we move into Fall? Do...
View ArticleQ&A: Loving Someone and Being Loved
Q: Gary, I thought the ability to truly love someone and to feel loved is directly linked to the ability to love oneself first, so can someone who doesn’t love themselves ever really feel loved?...
View ArticleAddicted to Romantic Love?
Western society is largely addicted to romantic love. This kind of love is obsessive in nature. You can’t get the other person off your mind. They are the most wonderful person you have ever met. Now,...
View ArticleWe Must Deal with Past Failures
A husband once said to me, “Why can’t we just forget the past and focus on the present and the future?” I’m empathetic with this husband, but it doesn’t work that way. We must deal with past failures...
View ArticleStarting Over
Would you like to put the past behind you and start over? I’m talking about in your marriage. Many couples have so much pain from past failures that they have a hard time moving ahead. Time alone, will...
View ArticleBecoming the Person Your Spouse Deserves
You don’t have to be perfect to have a good marriage. But, you do need to deal effectively with your failures. Otherwise they sit as barriers to a growing marriage. How do you get rid of past failures?...
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